In many ways this year made me feel heavy and left me so many tears to shed. I have faced so many new challenges and things I never experienced before. It wasn’t easy to handle and it was a struggle for me to stand the pain being an emotionally unstable person but this year taught me lessons to become a stronger woman I could be. The past year gave me goose bumps and I can say this definitely is not my year, I’ve learned a ton and remarkable lessons that I need to reflect on and I wanted to share this to you.
- THINK A HUNDRED TIMES BEFORE YOU SPEAK
We always have that attitude of defending our self without even thinking the consequences of the words that come out of our mouths. Whoever you may be talking to and whatever your emotions are going through, take time to pause and think. Close your eyes take a deep breath, think and answer. This might help you.
- YOU CAN’T KEEP EVERYONE TO STAY BY YOUR SIDE
As we mature and get older we also grow apart with our personalities. We took our own path, accept and focus on the real world and definitely lose friends. We are more focused on our goals in life, what we wanted to be, though we may encounter new friends along the way but still we longed the affection of our dear friends whom who have known us for years. Though we can’t keep them by our side, but as long as we always keep in touch true friends are never apart maybe in distance but never will in our hearts.
- DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY YOUR SORRY
Sorry seems to be the hardest word, isn’t it? Maybe because we are afraid of accepting our fault and flaws. We always tend to make our self-admit that we are always right when we are absolutely wrong. We are making a standard of “there’s no room for mistakes” not even realizing that no human being on this earth is perfect. If we hurt someone we love we are also hurting our self, always remember that. So, saying “sorry” to the people whom we hurt is like saying you forgive yourself and set that resent feeling in your heart. Say sorry even it’s a shallow reason it will make your heart lighter and happier.
- YOU DON’T NEED A MAN TO BE HAPPY
You can be happy on your own girl! You are not alone! Hey, you have friends around you; you have your family who’s always at your back. Being in a relationship doesn’t guarantee happiness at all. Life is a great journey and it’s not about finding a man to be happy. Being into a relationship is not for everyone and so is being single.
- LIFT UP THAT CONFIDENCE, LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO WEAR BORING CLOTHES
Definitely! We are in a world of modernization and we need to wear something presentable not to please the people around us but of course our self! Wear something that is comfortable, edgy and unique, it doesn’t matter if it’s out of style we have all our different styles anyway. Lastly, vigorously wear that confidence everywhere because at the end of the day, it is not the judgmental people or the critics that you gratify but it’s you, yourself and no one else.
- SELF-LOVE IS SELF-CARE AND IT’S NOT SELFISH
“Be selfless, if only for selfish reasons. Be selfish, if only for selfless reasons”. How could you take care of others if you can’t take good care of yourself? How do you expect to love anyone else, if you don’t love yourself? You must take good care of yourself first; it’s not selfish because it’s the only way you could send love, care and happiness to others.
- KEEP AN EYE ON YOUR FINANCIAL STATUS
We can’t deny that we are no longer a teenager that we can still rely on our finances to our parents. We are grown-ups already and we need to make a move to keep an eye and save some of our money for many purposes. We can’t deny that as the New Year comes never in anyone’s New Year Resolution that saving money is not included. Sometimes it’s definitely on the top of our list but most likely never happened. Just as like you, and as far as I could remember been adding that resolution for over the past 5 years but that really never happened, until 2018 thought me to do so.
I was able to manage how to take good care of my finances come to think that my earnings for a month is just right to take good care of our family needs.
And at the end of this year, finally! I was able to set aside a few bucks on my bank account and that’s one of the best reward you could possibly get.
- WE ARE HERE ON EARTH BECAUSE WE HAVE A PURPOSE
On my 40 Day Spiritual Journey the Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren, it definitely enlightens me what is really my purpose why I am here on earth. Every single word in this book touched my innermost soul that made me realized I was so selfish before I knew it. The purpose of our life is far greater than our own personal fulfilment, peace of mind, career, ambitions and dreams. We are here because we have a mission. We have a purpose. We humans are the instrument to spread the love in every corner of this earth, because life is meant to be shared.
If you are experiencing depression I suggest you read the content of this book. This will help illuminate and understand life well. It helped me, and so you do.
- MAKE TIME FOR GOD
When everything’s seems so unfair, whenever you’re hurt, feeling down and worried, lean on Him. He has eyes you didn’t see and He has ears that listen even if He doesn’t answer you back. Walk with Him and pray everything will be alright.
The Lord has heard my cry for mercy; the Lord accepts my prayer. – PSALM 6:9